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Open Question: Why doesn't he love me like he used to?

I know it was a bad thing to have that affair but it was just sex. We did the therapy and I told him I was sorry. Now he is acting cold and unapproachable even worse than before. I said all the things the counselor said to say. Why doesn't he love me like he used to? more

Open Question: Gum infection 1 month after filling tooth. No tooth ache/sensitivity, tooth sensitive to pressure. Root canal?

Hi, I had a deep filling done in one of my tooth (left side) 1 month ago. I was rarely using that side to chew until 2 days before when I filled my tooth on the right side. its then that i noticed that this tooth is sensitive to pressure. After 2 days, it developed a swelling in the gum below and had pus discharge from the gum. The tooth shows no discoloration, is not sensitive to hot/cold, no tooth ache. My dentist suggests i should go for a root canal therapy, but i am afraid if that is the real problem, because i have no tooth pain, and the tooth x-ray she showed me did not show any cavities running through the root of the tooth or below it ( if thats what to be looked for) Any ideas if this is a candidate for root canal treatment?? Can this be a problem of just gum abscess?? more

Open Question: addiction to prescription medications?

I had a car accident which had a huge impact on my health, My neck and the back of my head have been in pain ever since the accident. I had gone thorugh 3 years of physical therapy, and finally when the doctors ran out of options, they gave me lortab, klonopin and other medication, to help me sleep, releave pain, even brush my teeth in the morning. Now 3 years later I have a feeling that I am addicted to these RX. I do not know what to do. I came of the medications for 6 months (cold turkey) and it was very difficult not phsycologically but physically. I had so much pain in the back of my head, i developed migraines, I am going on 4th year and I think I am addicted to these pills. The doctors are not suggesting anything because I bring them business. I sat in their office the other day realizing that all these people in the waiting room are having the same issue. The are all in pain, picking up the same prescriptions. These doctors are legal drug dealers. How are they still in business and no one is doing anything about this? I need help. I am only 31 and my body is aching, from the pain every morning I wake up. I tried to do something like IB prophen, considering its not addictive at all, but it helps me very little. Doctor wanted to give me morphein and I declined. But I see what they are doing. what do I do? where do I go? Can anyone understand my concern? Has anyone been in this situation? thanks more

Voting Question: Do you know anything about service animals?

My son is 3 yrs old and autistic. He has a disorder called Sensory Processing Dysfunction that has left him unable to respond/feel hot or cold. We are trying to find out some information about training a dog to suit his needs. I have read on some sites that you can select and train the animal yourself as long as you register it with the SAR and keep your annual fees paid. My son has responded very well to equine therapy, but we would like for him to have a steady companion- and being around animals seems to help him deal with his surroundings better. Not to mention it would be nice to have a dog sleep in front of the gas heater instead of myself for a few nights. (son sleepwalks and has burnt himself unknowingly) I'm sure a service dog would be the best choice, but as to the training and paperwork- are there any sites anyone knows of to help me out? Any advice? Thanks for your time. more

Voting Question: im 16 is it time for me to turn my back on my mother?

My mother has psychologically and emotionally tormented me (and my younger brother) all of our lives. She lamented having children (she could have gone to medical school), she had no joy in raising us, she preferred anyone else's children to us, she told us we were worthless.... there is so much more. She was cold and she was cruel. We are the only ones who seem to know the truth about how ugly her heart is- my father is in denial, her friends worship her, and so does her own mother. I'm 16 But I am consumed with bitterness. I know I need therapy but my mom doesn't want me to tell them something that could get in trouble But I would be so encouraged by hearing from others who have prevailed over experiences like mine. How did you know when you got to the point where your mother could say anything at all- and it wouldn't make you wither and die inside? The day I dread is the day where she requires eldercare and it falls to me. My brother was so shaken up by her - I can't imagine him being able to step up. she makes me want to kill my self i really think i need to turn my back on her and closing the door.i cant even begin to tell you how bad of a mother she is she has had the CAS investigat her 10 times in 2 yearsshe had me at 16-17 she is now 33 and tells me she regrets haveing the abortion PS this is not my account more

Voting Question: I keep having depressing dreams that I am back in the Navy waiting to get out, how do I get them to stop?

I got kicked out of the navy after my roomate found me overdosed on sleeping pills and Jack Daniels. I had to wait about 8 months before they discharged me. Now I always have these dreams where it is always cold, gray and foggy and I'm on a surface ship away from seeing any land and I am also waiting to get out. Which is strange because I was on a submarine and I was in guam where it is always sunny and nice. I've also been going to therapy and normally havent been thinking about suicide on a regular basis... but after these dreams I just get really depressed and bizarre feelings... This has all been happening for about a year since I got on a regular basis.please don't thank me... my service to this country was an embarrasment to it and myself... it would have been different if I hadn't been placed in a job I that required me to be smarter than what I am more

Voting Question: How do I treat front neck pain that creates a tight strangling feeling with sharp pains?

Was in an accident about a year and a half ago. My neck pain went away after regular Chiro visits. Now it is back and has been hurting horribly for the last two months. I have been going to Physical therapy for 2 weeks now and I still have a lot of pain. On the xrays the different Chiro's say I am fixable, the Physical therapists think I am doing fine. I have full range of motion, but I experience painful tightness and sharp pains in the front of my neck and along the sides making me have headaches and feel nausous. I have never experiened this before. Any body have any suggestions about treatement. I don't take pain meds, and I have not been using hot/cold therapies because I want to be able to gauge my pain.I have a slight hypothyroid and went to my physican a few weeks ago to find out if this was the cause. They were the ones who referred me to physical therapy. I've been four times and still no change in the pain. Any other ideas? It is a little scary. more

Resolved Question: Does cold laser therapy really work to stop smoking>?

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Resolved Question: Do you think it's possible for compulsive gamblers to completely stop without therapy?

Is there any online therapy that actually is free and works? Can you just go cold turkey and quit without any help? Has anyone gone from being a compulsive gambler to never having the urge to gamble again? If so, how did you do it? more

Voting Question: DAD ISSUES: Does this qualify as abuse?

So my dad is not exactly physically abusive. He's slapped me once or twice, not hard, and grabbed my arm once. But it's been years and it really wasn't painful, so i doesn't count. Trust me, it was nothing. BUT he is probably verbally abusive. To my mom. He constantly criticizes her for buying necessary things like food or appliances when the old ones break down. He expects her to serve him meals and yells at her when she runs behind schedule. He call her fat even though she is average. A few years ago she fell into alcoholism to deal with her emotional pain, and since then she has gotten therapy but he is still constantly calling her an alcoholic. He used to drink and then forget about it, and when he saw the scotch missing he would blame her and accuse her of stealing it. He sleeps in a king bed while she sleeps on the sofa every night. It's been years since she's slept in a bed. I don't know why they stay together, but I suspect he likes the convenience of having his own little 'personal' maid. They haven't ever kissed since I was four. They yell nonstop. He yells at me, calls me a b*tch, calls her a b*tch, threatens to move out. I wish he would... I really wish he'd go away. Until the time I was twelve years old, I though a woman's job was to serve a man and that women weren't supposed to eat, because then they would get fat and be unattractive. I didn't know men could cook or clean. It shames me to say this, but I was and still am pretty screwed up. So I know he's bitter and cold, but is he abusive?I'm not going to report him. I just want to know. more

Voting Question: Something more than Bipolar?

My 17 year old daughter has Bipolar II. She is on her meds. Her mood now is one of constant annoyance it seems however she has always been that way. She is quick to anger out of nowhere. She is becoming more cold and insensitive each day. She really doesn't care about anyone elses feelings but her own. She is very dominant and truly laughs in the face of danger or authority. I have taken her to counselors/therapists but all she does is stay silent and glare, tell them to screw off, or psychoanaylze and harass them. Group therapy was the worst thing to do. She claimed all of the people there were weak and that she couldn't wait to see their pathetic lives destroyed. She can actually be very sociable and likeable, but it normally won't last for long. She emotionally isolates herself. She does not like close 'vulnerable' relationships at all. I think the real issue is that she clearly finds herself above others and consistently mocks them. She is a smart girl though and has a very high SAT score. I never believe anything she says anymore because she patholigically lies and manipulates. Most of her cruel ways are done emotionally or verbally but she has kicked the family cat before because he was "bothering her and would not stop rubbing against her" I have no idea what to do. All of the therapists have said they cannot help her. None of them have been of any help on what to do next. I really don't want my daughter to be like this. Is there a special type of therapist for this type of anger? Does she even qualify for anger management? more

Resolved Question: Is my mom the problem, or I?

I'm fourteen years old, and I've been having problems with my mom for about two years now, which was when my dad died She always seems to be able to get inside my head and point out everything I do wrong. When I don't hang out with her and her boyfriend constantly when he spends the night, she get's really mad because she said I'm hurting his feelings. She tells me that I get in the way of her happiness, and how she never understands why I feel the way I do about my dad's death because "Him and I weren't even close", and when I mention that I miss him, she just starts freaking out and yelling at me and saying stuff like "WELL THERE'S NOTHING I CAN DO ABOUT THAT!"with a few choice words in there too. She always throws in my face about me not believing in God really sarcastically, and in front of people, so I get really embarrassed. She also never listens to anything I say, and she say's im screwed up and need therapy. Oh, and she also told me today in this really cold voice that "She didn't raise me very well." Now, keep in mind that I'm ALWAYS nice to her, I do the thing's she asks me to do, and I try to be respectful. I kid around with her sometimes, and then she goes off on me. I don't know what to do. Is this emotional/metal abuse, is she bipolar, am I doing something wrong? Please help me, I can't stand this much longer.Tracy, my dad and I were close, my mom just seems to not think so more

Resolved Question: Is the problem my mom, or I?

I've been having problems with my mom for about two years now. She always seems to be able to get inside my head and point out everything I do wrong. She tells me that I get in the way of her happiness, and how she never understands why I feel the way I do about my dad's death because "Him and I weren't even close", and when I mention that I miss him, she just starts freaking out and yelling at me and saying stuff like "WELL THERE'S NOTHING I CAN DO ABOUT THAT!"with a few choice words in there too. She always throws in my face about me not believing in God really sarcastically, and in front of people, so I get really embarrassed. She also never listens to anything I say, and she say's im screwed up and need therapy. Oh, and she also told me today in this really cold voice that "She didn't raise me very well." Now, keep in mind that I'm ALWAYS nice to her, I do the thing's she asks me to do, and I try to be respectful. I kid around with her sometimes, and then she goes off on me. I don't know what to do. Is this emotional/metal abuse, is she bipolar, am I doing something wrong? Please help me, I can't stand this much longer. more

Voting Question: What is my condition not improving?

Ok I have suffered with an eating disorder for quite a long time and have recently gone into therapy to try and resolve my issues. I know my mental state will take a long time to recover, if I ever fully recover at all that is. So anyway I have been really making an effort to make myself eat a healthy amount for about 2 months now, and I have had my ups and downs. But I have been a lot better, been getting all my nutrition and following a plan. Although it has been a very big struggle. But recently I have noticed that my physical condition still is not improving even though I have gained weight. My hair is still falling out, my nails are still breaking all the time, my skin all over is still really dry, and my hair is dry. I am always still cold, I still have dark circles under my eyes and I have very little energy. So I was basically just wondering why my physical condition is still not improving. Also how long will all this take to get better? Thanks.I also have not purged for about six weeks, but I still feel like whenever I go to the toilet I am losing all my potassium, because when you purge the level of potassium in your urine increases. But it still feels like it must be high, because I can go to the toilet feeling fine then moments after I start to show symptoms of potassium deficiency.Is it possible that my body has lost it's ability to properlly absorb nutients?Seagull, thanks for the advice but the thing is I am Vegan... I know for a fact I am getting all that I need from my diet, I have done tones of research on being Vegan and know what I have to eat. So thanks for the coconut thing, I will try and do that. But I cannot do the shellfish or the diary. Diary actually prevents your body from properlly absorbing nutrients and takes calcium out of the body. I get all I need from other sources. more

Resolved Question: WHat is best way to quit smoking...?

Gradual reduction method Cold Turkey Educated Cold Turkey Nicotine replace therapy Hypnotherapy or what? more

Resolved Question: Why won't our hot/cold therapy packs freeze anymore?

We've had these for a couple months and for the past couple days they just won't freeze. I haven't had any reason to heat them lately but i'm not sure if that could have affected it. Any ideas? more

Resolved Question: Hot Stone heat problems, can you help?

I've recently just qualified in hot stone therapy but i'm having troubles with the stones temperature level. I follow all the required procedures, by placing them in an electric heater for more than 30mins at the right temperature and also use a thermometer to make sure its heated at the right temperature. The problem I'm having is that when I use the stones they seem to turn cold in a matter of minutes not lasting long enough. Any idea's as to what is going wrong or what I'm doing wrong? The stones are baltic stones. more

Resolved Question: so i'am convinced that i have parasites?

i took some tests at the doctors and the blood work and pee sample all came back normal and fine, i have all of the symptoms of parasites and they can't find anything wrong with me but i feel like hell! i'am in therapy as of yesterday because everybody is telling me that it's in my head but my symptoms don't feel in my head :p i always feel sick and i just want answers! i'am taking probiotics now.....and i was wondering if those will kill the parasites permanetly or is that not enough? i want advice and help thank you :] here are my symptoms: burning in stomach intense stomach pain sometimes all day every day cold feeling threw out body hot flashes the shakes loss of appettite naseau mucus in stool agoriphobia anxiety panic attacks headaches and when i eat sometimes i still feel hungry i'am a vegetarian. more

Resolved Question: Another liberal talking point goes down in flames, agree?

I say liberal because the only people I know that touted these things were liberals I know. Ten years ago the government set out to test herbal and other alternative health remedies to find the ones that work. After spending $2.5 billion, the disappointing answer seems to be that almost none of them do. Echinacea for colds. Ginkgo biloba for memory. Glucosamine and chondroitin for arthritis. Black cohosh for menopausal hot flashes. Saw palmetto for prostate problems. Shark cartilage for cancer. All proved no better than dummy pills in big studies funded by the National Center for Complementary and Alternative Medicine. The lone exception: ginger capsules may help chemotherapy nausea. As for therapies, acupuncture has been shown to help certain conditions, and yoga, massage, meditation and other relaxation methods may relieve symptoms like pain, anxiety and fatigue. Read more: http://www.nydailynews.com/lifestyle/health/2009/06/11/2009-06-11_alternative_medicines_shown_to_be_ineffective_after_25_billion_in_research.html#ixzz0I7pwyMUb&C more

Resolved Question: Is this story for my self help exam any good?

Okay, i self harm and go to group therapy...our topic for discussion this week was to write a story about how we feel but in someone else's point of view....can you tell me if its any good please? Its title is Lost and Stranded...or am i? Shewasn'tt lost, she knew exactly where she wanted to go...home. But branded her own worst unwanted memory she cursed her forced love of those people and cast it away. She was sat alone and cold next to the road. No cars were passing...eerie yet soothing. That brought her to her other emotion...stranded. Unaware of her familiar surroundings that she neither had time or strength to examine the places she once knew. Her scars are taking comfort in the skin wrapping her wrists. She cut again yesterday...and today...unravelling the pleasure of the burning pain that follows...to numb the dark spiral of emptiness thats glued to her continuously. The tingling in her fingers...the aching in her wrists...the guilt that chokes her soul. Guilt...a dark colour...is she alone with it? Or is all this in the discreet contentment of her own mind? more

Voting Question: Why do i like blood and want it so bad?

I dont know whats going on my hands are always cold i love to sleep but in the morning the sun wakes me up and i cant fall back asleep damn night light wajes me up in the middle of the night so i gotta turn it off and i love blood. I always wanted and still do to warm up my blood in the microwave. I have scars and cuts everywhere 4 blood and might get a flesh eating disease and my parents wanna put bak into therapy. Help!!! more

Resolved Question: back injury at work. does my employer have to give me time off?? what are my rights?

I am awaiting the results of my MRI but have been in constant pain for 8 weeks now for what my doctor believes to be repetative motion/work related lower back pain. I will find out next week what specifically is wrong but my employer does not want to give me any time off or even allow me to schedule breaks within the day presently. I have tried chiropractic, accupuncture, hot/cold packs, pain medication, a steroid shot, and i cannot get any relief for more than a few hours. I have spent money on all these things plus physical therapy sessions and a tens unit. My employer says he has a problem with me inconveniencing people due to this but I have a problem with working in constant pain without breaks and getting brow beat for being in this situation. I'm trying to be a good employee but I feel as if he doesn't care he just wants to make sure I continue making him money. What should i do if the MRI finds an injury? File a workers comp claim? I don't want to quit or lose my job but I can't continue if I do in fact have an injury and I'm making it worse every day. I do have a weeks vacation saved up if it is just some sort of flair up and will heal. I'm just so unsure as to what I should do to protect myself and what my rights are by law. Any advice or experience with a situation similar will be greatly appreciated. more

Voting Question: Deceased Landlord in dream and Ghost advice needed.?

My landlord died on sunday morning and I been handling her stuff all week.Its been a very stressed out week handling everything. At night I hear strange sounds that I didn't normally hear while she was alive. But last night dream was very strange so I will explain. My landlord while she was alive loved all her animals alot. In my dream she was in the kitchen smoking and we were talking I dont remember the whole conversation though. I do remember her saying " Thank you for taking care of my animals" I had and do have a special place in my heart for my now deceased landlord she was more motherly then my own mother. I guess to me it appeared to be friendly in nature. Can ghosts appear in dreams? What are some good ways to protect now deceased landlord house from ghosts? To my knowledge ghosts are evil that can take form of anybody or anything fimiliar to you to trick you. I sleep with every light on in the house since she died just to feel safe and some more serious helpful tips would be most appreciated. I feel like she is watching me in the house and its a very creepy feeling. I avoid going into her room where she died at night its wayy to creepy to me. I can still feel her rigamortise skin and always will remember her experesion on her face. She was cold to the touch and the feeling of her skin was all rigamortise stiff. I am a war veteran I killed people in war time but it never really bothered me but the death of my landlord has been bothering me and I cant explain why. Do I need therapy? I have to stay at my landlords house till tuesday thats when I get paid so I can move out. Its just a creepy feeling the whole time I am inside the house. Advice on my situation would be more then appreciated.I found out also one of my military friends who I was very close with she died in the same week as my landlord. more

Resolved Question: adeninie and guanine are what?

Adenine and guanine are a. double-ringed purines. b. single-ringed purines. c. double-ringed pyrimidines. d. single-ringed pyrimidines. Gregor Mendel developed all of the following ideas relating to genetics EXCEPT a. dominant traits. b. recessive traits. c. traits are transferred by factors now called genes. d. the factors are found in the nucleus of each cell. Visual traits or actual appearance is known as the a. genotype. b. phenotype. c. allele. d. recessive trait. The color of Siamese cats is controlled by a. multiple alleles. b. quantitative inheritance. c. incompletely dominant genes. d. variation in temperature, with cold temperature producing dark fur. The type of inheritance that would suggest the concept of blending is a. multiple alleles. b. autosomal dominance. c. codominance. d. incomplete dominance. The expression of color in homing pigeons a. is an exception to Mendels Laws of Inheritance. b. follows a simple pattern of dominance. c. follows a pattern of codominance. d. involves a and c only. Galactosemia a. is an X-linked recessive trait expressed more commonly in males. b. occurs more frequently in some ethnic groups than others. c. is an autosomal recessive inheritance. d. involves all of the above A chromosome that has been broken and rejoined in a reversal sequence has undergone a. inversion. b. deletion. c. duplication. d. translocation In a pedigree chart a male showing the specific trait being studied is indicated by a a. darkened square. b. clear square. c. darkened diamond. d. clear triangle. A karyotype a. compares one set of chromosomes to another. b. is a visual display of chromosomes arranged according to size. c. is a photograph of cells undergoing mitosis during anaphase. d. of a normal human cell shows 48 chromosomes. Routine treatments for genetic disorders currently involve a. substituting normal for defective parents. b. substituting normal for defective genes. c. supplying a missing gene. d. supplying missing enzymes or gene products. A major area of research seeking treatment for genetic disorders is a. physical therapy. b. genetic counseling. c. gene therapy. d. iron chelation. more

Resolved Question: How can I be a stay at home mom?

My husband and I are very serious and determined for me to be a stay at home mom. My mother raised me and my 5 other siblings as a homemaker and my dad worked full time as a minister of a small church. We by no means had a lot of money but we werent poor either. His mother worked from home managing the apartments his family owns. Here is our situation. He does not want me to work outside the home while we have a little one. We do not want to put our child in daycare. We do not want to leave our child with a baby sitter or family. My husband works as a contractor as a security guard for a federal military installation. He has been doing this for 5 years now. He is former Air Force. He makes about $32,000 a year doing this. This is his only source of income. It's a steady job but he recently had back surgery (microdiscectomy) and is finding it painful to wear a ballistic vest, heavy gear, and stand for 9 hours a day. The elements where we live is pretty rough during the winter (cold sometimes freezing) and it's HOT and HUMID (95 degrees) during the summer. The hours are crap and he literally works from 3:45 am till 2:00 PM. He is/has been ready to find a new job/career. I work full time for a computer training company. I am an office manager and make $30,000 a year. So far my income has really helped us. We do not struggle or stress about finances. We pay all of our bills and have been very blessed to have money left over each month. Since we were married in Febuary I have managed to put $2,000 in savings (which may not seem like much but it's helping and continuing to grow little by little). We are planning on me cont. to work until my due date when I will go on unpaid maternity leave and will not return to work. I continue to work now for the health benefits as my pregnancy was labeled pre existing on my husbands plan. My husband is currently checking into going back ti school and becoming a physical therapy assistant which would pay about $42,000 a year. He has a little less than a a year of classes and he would be done. The job would offer much better benefits and and better working hours. He is eligible for the GI BILL which would pay for ALL of his school and books as well as about an extra $1,000 a month. He will need to also work (to make the rest of our bills, groceries, gas, baby stuff, etc.) I just worry about how THIS is going to work with me staying at home. His parents do own apartments (they are LOADED) and I think he is going to see if they can in any way help. He feels like the security work is a trap and he needs to be doing something more stable to provide for our family. I think the school idea is great and the GI Bill is at an all time great offer. I would like to learn to do something from home to bring in extra income. What can I do? I've thought of learning soy candle making and selling candles. What about possible childcare from my home? We live in a VERY nice house. I am not opposed to either of those options. Is there any other ideas/options you all can throw my way? Opinions/ Etc. are greatly appreciated. I will choose a best answer. Im just looking for direction.. Help and THANKS!!!I am 18 weeks pregnant due on Halloween! more

Resolved Question: Anyone else feel the same way?

I'm in my early twenties and it sucks. some days are good, some are bad, but most are just "blah". I had a difficult childhood and am trying to appear pulled together and well-adjusted, but most of the time I just want to cry. everyone else seems pretty happy and satisfied with life, and most of my coworkers talk of happy weekends spent shopping with mom, hanging out with sisters, etc. no such luck for me. i've tried antidepressants and therapy (for years) to no avail. and i smoke from time to time when i'm bored and stressed, but i don't like that i do it. i can quit cold turkey, but a few months later when the going gets tough, I just need one or two. i am so confused, disappointed, and full of anxiety. scared i'll lose my job, scared that i'll never find true love, and afraid i'll never "make it" in life. is it the economy? more

Resolved Question: This is going to be a very long post.?

I am not trying to tell people how to raise their children. I am just letting you in on a story of my friend and her little boy's accident. Its a very long story and anyone who has a heart will cry reading it. I never co slept and not for these reasons but I will NEVER co sleep until my children are over 2 if they need me. My question is did this touch your heart and make you rethink your position on co sleeping? Its a very sad thing and it can happen to anyone though you think accidents cant happen to you. Jacob's Story: I hate April. I know bad things happen all the time no matter the month, but it seems to me that April has to be the worst. One of the worst people (Hitler) to have ever lived was born in the month of April. The Columbine High School massacre happened in April as well as the Virginia Tech Shootings. The first day in April has very mean origins. President Lincoln was murdered in April. Oh yeah, and April is the month that my son died. The eight-year anniversary of Jacob’s accident is the twenty-fifth. Until recently I blamed myself harshly for it. Much therapy and dedicated self-help has taught me to forgive myself, so it is with great pleasure that I now can write this. Here is Jacob’s story. I breast fed Jacob, so I found it perfect to have him sleep with us. I was raised this way, as was every generation before me. As is my usual custom to issues unknown, I researched the pros and cons and found it to be statistically safer than a crib, so I felt completely safe doing this. As long as there were pillows shoved into the cracks around the bed that was against the wall, he always slept on the outside and the bed was on the floor. These conditions were satisfactorily met, so I had no fear of him in our bed and it made nursing so much easier, as I didn’t have to get out of bed every few hours to feed him. That is, until it didn’t work this way. On the morning of April twenty-fifth I awoke at the unholy hour of 4:02 am. It was a day like any other, to be spent wishing it was over so I could get to the weekend. What a miserable way to live huh? Within seconds I realized that our seven and a half month old baby wasn’t beside me. Instantly cold-blooded fear shot through me like nothing I had ever felt. I looked around the floor, because he sometimes crawled out of bed to play and fell asleep. Nope, no Jacob on the floor. You have to remember that it is still 4:02, mere seconds had passed not the four hours that it felt like it took my brain to process the fact that my kid wasn’t on the floor. This didn’t make any sense; did the other people in the house do something with him? WTF? I reached up at the head of the bed to see if he was there and I felt something dead. You know when you are touching something dead, I don’t know why, or if I am the only one but I feel a difference even when the body is still warm. I instantly jerked him out of the crack (later I asked the doctors if I had pulled his shoulder out of the socket, because I had pulled so quickly; I didn‘t). Yep, he was dead all right; I could see it in his face. For a few seconds I just looked at him. I thought that this was the last time I would ever see him. It felt like I was swimming in a clock of jell-o. Time stood still. And then I remembered that I knew CPR. I came to and started giving him breath, it was 4:03. In between the first and second breath I said “Jimmy”, oddly he was instantly awake and said “is it bad?” Jimmy sleeps like a rock, so something in my voice told him I was scared and needed him. Strange how we are so connected in every way. Before the words “it’s Jake” were all the way out of my mouth, he was out of the bed. While he got dressed, which took maybe six seconds, I continued CPR while I was running to the car. As I opened the car door I realized I couldn’t drive and do CPR and then Jimmy was there taking Jacob from my arms and throwing my housecoat on me. Apparently I was still ass naked, I had no idea and would have stayed that way had he not brought it. The trip to the hospital was akin to what I imagine a mother in Africa feels like watching her baby die of malaria. I could do nothing but scream, so that‘s what I did while Jimmy did CPR. I am so thankful that no one was in my way because I was driving upwards of seventy-five in residential Chamblee-Dunwoody. I ran every light and would not have stopped for anything, and I mean anything. There were three hospitals within a few miles of us, I didn’t know the lay out of the children’s hospital but I knew Northside so that is where I went. I came in emergency doing at least forty and was laying on the horn from the street to the door. Someone was running to meet us as I got there and Jimmy jumped out to meet him before I had totally stopped. The man took Jacob and ran as we followed. We were not allowed in the tiny cubicle while they worked on him but we could see everything through a giant window. It was at this point that I asked Jimmy iIt wont let me post the entire thing which would be much better. Yes Jacob is alive now. He has brain damage from not getting oxygen to his brain for so long. His lungs had collapsed. for the one who said "friend" it is my friend. I do not know her and her husband in person but we talk alot on the game World of Warcraft and they are the nicest people in the world. I got this from her myspace. She was willing to share her sons story for me. If you want to know the whole story I can email it to you just email me and let me know. Jacob has a rough life now and I do agree it wont change people from co sleeping and there is other ways that babies are going to die no matter what we do. accidents happen no matter how hard we try to prevent them. As for the lower rate of SIDS with co sleeping they say parents who smoke and co sleep have a higher risk. more

Resolved Question: schools similar to syracuse?

okay so i love syracuse and it is my favorite school so far, it has everything i want; cheerleading and a physical therapy program. i'm worried about the cold though. are there any schools similar to syracuse on the east, just further south?i really like the size of it tooo... more

Resolved Question: Why is she hot then cold?

Here's the gist of it: My partner and I broke up about three weeks ago. We had a huge argument that turned very dramatic/loud. She left once, but then returned immediately. Then, after waiting a few seconds she left again--this time for good. After five or six hours had passed, she came back home with someone else in tow (I was asleep, and stayed in the bedroom). She said she needed to grab a few things. But she ended up not grabbing very much. I just finished packing 9 boxes of her stuff, including her laptop. Anyhow, the day after the break up, she called sobbing about missing me. We talked, and decided that we still wanted to be together. She mentioned going to therapy for the first time, and discovering that she was depressed. She said that she was excited to be a better person, and a better partner to me. She came by later that night, and stayed for just about five minutes. We kissed a bit, but I think that both of us were afraid to get too involved in it. I decided to leave a card on her windshield the next day. Basically, it just a simple I Love You card with a copy of ee cummings I carry your heart in my heart. I thought she would find it sweet. When I talked to her the next day though, she was ice cold. I asked about the card, and she said very flatly "I got it." Then she talked very clinically about what "I" was going to do. I asked for clarification, and she corrected to "we", but it was clear she didn't mean it. She was so distant on the phone that I told her that I didn't know what was going on. She said she didn't either. Then she said she was "sorting through her feelings." I asked what that meant. She repeated the same phrase. The conversation really hurt, especially on the heels of the lovey dovey one that we had just had the day before. I told her that it was painful to speak with her, and we hung up. She called later to say "I miss you" in the most shallow way one can utter that phrase. I told her that it hurt to talk...that we should back off for awhile. She called again. I stupidly answered. This time she said, "Oh I shouldn't call and say I miss you, it hurts you." As if she no longer experienced any hurt (one day after a sobbing "I miss you" message). Well, after that, I refused to answer her calls. At that point, to me, it was mean to keep calling given we agreed that the calls were painful to me. Then we found out that we had to move from our apartment. Long story. I texted her, and told her. No response. Texted. No response. Finally, I asked if she were ignoring me. She said, "I'm sorting through my feelings." Since then, I have asked her to come and get her belongings, even providing a time when I wouldn't be here so there's no awkward confrontation. She works right across the street. I have seen her car parked around our apartment day after day. She ignores all of my texts about getting her belongings. She hasn't even returned my belongings, which include my mother's things (my mom passed away about a year ago so her things mean quite a lot to me). Why the quick change from "I still want to marry you" to "what are you going to do?" Oh, and while asking what I was going to do, she went on about how much stronger each of us was going to be because of this (although it was unclear what *this* meant). I figured it was code for break up, but then she called (as I noted above) a bunch more times over the following days. I haven't heard from her in two weeks. And I'm still wondering...what happened. more

Voting Question: Should I wait around for my ex boyfriend with depression?

I was with my ex-boyfriend for almost a year and we were very much in love - very happy together, no major problems or fights, he treated me like a queen and I adored him. Everyone said that they could tell we made each other very happy and were very much in love. We were getting close to a commitment stage (had plans to move in and become engaged in the next few months) but the last few weeks our our relationship he was more distant and and one day he suddenly broke up with me saying he wasn't happy and couldn't be in a relationship anymore. I first attributed it to cold feet or the fact he just didn't want me anymore and though I didn't understand it planned to try to move on with my life. But it has now been almost 2 months since our break up and we have talked several times. He has been in therapy since our break up, has been diagnosed with depression and desperately wants to get better (considering trying medication) and doing whatever it takes to not feel this way anymore. He tells me he loves me and wants to be with me and marry me one day but has to be in a better place, where he is happier with himself and life in general. He says he is in a funk where has an underlying sadness all the time and what he thinks happened is the stresses of our relationship, work, and family all got out of control and he got stuck in this depression. He knows pushing me away and how he suddenly ended our relationship was totally wrong but knows that pushing the ones you loved away is a sign of depression, which he now realizes he has. He says he wants to be in a better place and be on the road to fixing these problems so when we do get back together this won't happen again (basically fix himself so he can be in a place where he understands his problems and can deal with stresses before they spiral out of control and go into a depressive episode. I love him very much and I know he is worth all of this but do you think he will ever get to this place? Will I be waiting weeks, months, years??? What is the best course of action (move on with my life for now and let him solve this on this own), wait for him, continue talking or not talking? Anyone have similar experiences or advice for dealing with him? And if we do get back together can I be sure he won't just walk out on me again??? more

Resolved Question: Please help me deal with an ex boyfriend with depression...?

I was with my ex-boyfriend for almost a year and we were very much in love - very happy together, no major problems or fights, he treated me like a queen and I adored him. Everyone said that they could tell we made each other very happy and were very much in love. We were getting close to a commitment stage (had plans to move in and become engaged in the next few months) but the last few weeks our our relationship he was more distant and and one day he suddenly broke up with me saying he wasn't happy and couldn't be in a relationship anymore. I first attributed it to cold feet or the fact he just didn't want me anymore and though I didn't understand it planned to try to move on with my life. But it has now been almost 2 months since our break up and we have talked several times. He has been in therapy since our break up, has been diagnosed with depression and desperately wants to get better (considering trying medication) and doing whatever it takes to not feel this way anymore. He tells me he loves me and wants to be with me and marry me one day but has to be in a better place, where he is happier with himself and life in general. He says he is in a funk where has an underlying sadness all the time and what he thinks happened is the stresses of our relationship, work, and family all got out of control and he got stuck in this depression. He knows pushing me away and how he suddenly ended our relationship was totally wrong but knows that pushing the ones you loved away is a sign of depression, which he now realizes he has. He says he wants to be in a better place and be on the road to fixing these problems so when we do get back together this won't happen again (basically fix himself so he can be in a place where he understands his problems and can deal with stresses before they spiral out of control and go into a depressive episode. I love him very much and I know he is worth all of this but do you think he will ever get to this place? Will I be waiting weeks, months, years??? What is the best course of action (move on with my life for now and let him solve this on this own), wait for him, continue talking or not talking? Anyone have similar experiences or advice for dealing with him? And if we do get back together can I be sure he won't just walk out on me again???In response to the guilt thing, yes he does feel guilty. He felt guilty that he couldn't give me everything i wanted (a ring) right now which made him feel worthless cause that is what he wanted to but for some reason couldn't do it. He feels guilt in life in general that he isn't a good enough person, boyfriend, family member (he is learning those feelings are part of the depression and issues he is dealing with) more

Voting Question: Do you know what I have?

My Throught (Or however you spell it) is getting really scratchy and I cough alot and it hurts my through when my do. My waste hurts alot and makes me have to go alot and my nose is getting extremely runny. Normally I would call this the cold but this is the third day in a row I got it and it always seems fine when I wake up but get worse over the day but it always is better than the last day. Here is some extra information on myself to help. I live in Oakville Ontario, not far from Toronto. I am a 15 Year Old Boy I have a slightly lower immune system than other people and no vaccanations because they contain mercury and do brain damage. A Kid at my school got the Swine Flu a few weeks ago, no one really knows if another student got it or not but they do think a second student did. My Heritage is Italian and Portugeese if that has anything to do with it. Also odds are this one has nothing to do with it but I am born with Autism and got therapy to the point I am currently High Functioning Aspergers but was born VERY low functioning. I have been taking Hauls, Gingerale and Tums to help but I only have one Tums left... (Do not read next bit if easily disgusted... Crap related) It is not Diareha... Just a bunch of seperate soft pieces.Some Extra Info. I have a lot of coughing... I lost alot of my appetite but not all of it. I have a Runny Nose but how runny is and up and down thing. I just started getting watery eyes on the third day. I have really annoying Throat Irritation. I have some Nausea And as for the Diarriha it is not green but soft and seperated but I recently found out it falls under Diarriha. more

Resolved Question: Does anyone know what I have?

My Throught (Or however you spell it) is getting really scratchy and I cough alot and it hurts my through when my do. My waste hurts alot and makes me have to go alot and my nose is getting extremely runny. Normally I would call this the cold but this is the third day in a row I got it and it always seems fine when I wake up but get worse over the day but it always is better than the last day. Here is some extra information on myself to help. I live in Oakville Ontario, not far from Toronto. I am a 15 Year Old Boy I have a slightly lower immune system than other people and no vaccanations because they contain mercury and do brain damage. A Kid at my school got the Swine Flu a few weeks ago, no one really knows if another student got it or not but they do think a second student did. My Heritage is Italian and Portugeese if that has anything to do with it. Also odds are this one has nothing to do with it but I am born with Autism and got therapy to the point I am currently High Functioning Aspergers but was born VERY low functioning. I have been taking Hauls, Gingerale and Tums to help but I only have one Tums left... (Do not read next bit if easily disgusted... Crap related) It is not Diareha... Just a bunch of seperate soft pieces.Some Extra Info. I have a lot of coughing... I lost alot of my appetite but not all of it. I have a Runny Nose but how runny is and up and down thing. I just started getting watery eyes on the third day. I have really annoying Throat Irritation. I have some Nausea And as for the Diarriha it is not green but soft and seperated but I recently found out it falls under Diarriha. more

Resolved Question: Im writing a book, and these are a couple of it's parts, what do you think?

I'm thirteen, btw and this isn't the edited thing. K? So don't fuss on about grammar or anythhing. Thanks. I followed the mist down isles of death, marked with the blood of my ancestors. I ran through the blood bath, now clean but nothing in the world could hide the stench of death so radiant amongst the bones embarked with the scars of Tenjoku. I remembered the heat of hell, the screams, the warriors, the demons, the fear, the hopelessness and my heart left all courage behind and gave way to the black mist. I could feel the magic fighting against the strengths of the mist. But it was a fight lost before fought the mist was too strong and bloated with the shadow death left. “LEO!” the scream penetrated the darkness, the mist clearing at the sound of the voice. But then something stopped me. I saw a body, insides out, eyes red, rusty with old age yet so beautiful. I knelt down, my hand outstretched. My fingers touched her skin and something magnetic in her pulled me towards her. My hand on her face I let it slide down to her heart, checking- praying- for a heart-beat. But it stayed still, I left my hand there for long, stretching minutes but there was nothing but the stone cold skin. Simple shock finally left and sorrow took over. I fell onto her body, crying, sobbing and wishing she was still here with me. I tugged on the familiar fabric of her robes and looked around for the ground she had left me on. All around me I saw familiar horrors, as though I was visiting a familiar nightmare but this nightmare was so different, so realistic, so terrifying. Nothing would ever weigh up to it. I wept over my mother’s body for hours, the soul haunting me but I didn’t care. I wasn’t going to move, although her soul had left the beautiful body thousands of years ago I knew she was watching me now, from heaven, promising me that we will be reunited one day. I brought her cape down, beautiful, blonde hair with the same texture as mine swished out, over her eyes, covering her shining face. My hand slid down to hers and I held it, her nails dug into mine. I remembered the feeling and tears attacked my face once more. Alezander and Tyler were soon asleep, followed by Loch and Zeke. Me? I had an insomnia strike again. The second I closed my eyes my mother’s body returned. The vines. The leaves. The whisper was hissing at me once again. And then I decided to give up. I had to think about it, it was the only therapy. I felt her soft hair caressed in my hands. Remembered her soft touch, still holding the magic that had been cherished in her soft touch for years over years. Her hazel eyes, holding the soft look that she had left etched on her features over sixteen thousand years. I recalled her caressing touch that still tickled my feelings over these many years, and the thought was so comforting it got rid of my insomnia and I was fast asleep within an hour. Though, my dreams weren’t too welcoming. The sounds of hell roared in my ear, a whispering in my brain, the pictures of all my loved ones burning in flames, I was trying to get to them but I was imprisoned with invisible strings, they seared my skin and dug deep into my flesh. The strings of death tugged me away from my beloved.to Danica: I've written 125 pages of the book so far, that's on microsoft word. to everyone: thankyou. to the person who said I repeat things a lot: I totally know. I've heard it before, though thanks for reminding me. I have to edit and change a few things. :D. thanks. more

Resolved Question: How would you describe dating someone who is Bipolar?

My experience dating a bipolar: selfish manipulative impulsive IGNORING ME walking on eggshells best friend one day, stranger/enemy the next day promiscuous risky sex ignoring phases takes people for granted and he *is* on meds, and therapy, and still acts this way I would also add: IMMATURE heartless cold cruel cowardly deceitful backstabbing rude disrespectful betray of my trust cheating lying Hate you one day, then LOVE you the next more

Resolved Question: Can you please judge my writing?

These are a few parts of my book: I followed the mist down isles of death, marked with the blood of my ancestors. I ran through the blood bath, now clean but nothing in the world could hide the stench of death so radiant amongst the bones embarked with the scars of Tenjoku. I remembered the heat of hell, the screams, the warriors, the demons, the fear, the hopelessness and my heart left all courage behind and gave way to the black mist. I could feel the magic fighting against the strengths of the mist. But it was a fight lost before fought the mist was too strong and bloated with the shadow death left. “LEO!” the scream penetrated the darkness, the mist clearing at the sound of the voice. But then something stopped me. I saw a body, insides out, eyes red, rusty with old age yet so beautiful. I knelt down, my hand outstretched. My fingers touched her skin and something magnetic in her pulled me towards her. My hand on her face I let it slide down to her heart, checking- praying- for a heart-beat. But it stayed still, I left my hand there for long, stretching minutes but there was nothing but the stone cold skin. Simple shock finally left and sorrow took over. I fell onto her body, crying, sobbing and wishing she was still here with me. I tugged on the familiar fabric of her robes and looked around for the ground she had left me on. All around me I saw familiar horrors, as though I was visiting a familiar nightmare but this nightmare was so different, so realistic, so terrifying. Nothing would ever weigh up to it. I wept over my mother’s body for hours, the soul haunting me but I didn’t care. I wasn’t going to move, although her soul had left the beautiful body thousands of years ago I knew she was watching me now, from heaven, promising me that we will be reunited one day. I brought her cape down, beautiful, blonde hair with the same texture as mine swished out, over her eyes, covering her shining face. My hand slid down to hers and I held it, her nails dug into mine. I remembered the feeling and tears attacked my face once more. Alezander and Tyler were soon asleep, followed by Loch and Zeke. Me? I had an insomnia strike again. The second I closed my eyes my mother’s body returned. The vines. The leaves. The whisper was hissing at me once again. And then I decided to give up. I had to think about it, it was the only therapy. I felt her soft hair caressed in my hands. Remembered her soft touch, still holding the magic that had been cherished in her soft touch for years over years. Her hazel eyes, holding the soft look that she had left etched on her features over sixteen thousand years. I recalled her caressing touch that still tickled my feelings over these many years, and the thought was so comforting it got rid of my insomnia and I was fast asleep within an hour. Though, my dreams weren’t too welcoming. The sounds of hell roared in my ear, a whispering in my brain, the pictures of all my loved ones burning in flames, I was trying to get to them but I was imprisoned with invisible strings, they seared my skin and dug deep into my flesh. The strings of death tugged me away from my beloved.girl, maybe you don't know but I'm sort of writing a HORROR story. Not one of those pansy stupid books all on the twilight love rubbish. So the more unhumanlike imagination and horror the better it is. So all that is sort of a compliment. Have you ever read those books that go into the hell-heaven things? I never said her soul was still inside, it was free it just spoke. God. Jeez. Thanks to the other guy/girl though. I gotta find some words besides soft! Lol. more

Resolved Question: Has anyone watched the new season of Jon and Kate plus 8?

I just got done watching Jon and Kate's new season and I am appalled. During the whole entire time, it was about "Kate". Did anyone noticed how cold she was towards Jon at the birthday party? I thought Pluto was warmer than that.. I used to love the show during their earlier years as they were genuine .Now it's ridiculous. I believe Kate needs to go to professional therapy for her NPD(narcissistic personality disorder) and Jon needs to stand on his 2 feet and stop having Kate bossing him around like she's been doing the last couple years. It broke my heart when I heard "Daddy,I don't want you to leave anymore". This is my opinion...Wings: You couldn't say it any better. I totally agree with you. Who in their right mind sells their childrens photo with signatures for $20"Jon is a jerk?" I feel for Jon as he has a controlling wife who lives and breathes perfection.From his clothing to his english.Look how many times she smacks him when they were doing interviews during the last episodes they filmed together? I do agree that it is not for the kids. It's more for Kate. The fame has went straight to her head that nothing else matters anymore. Has anyone took notice how many times she goes out to elaborate shopping sprees and pretty herself up? Come on...We all know she in this show for the money..Thank you again mouse..I totally agree with youBut I agree it is selfish that they are filming when they are seperated. TLC should know better. After all, it is a family channel.Stephanie: They both agreed to be in the spotlight and they have to live with the consequences. Granted, if Kate was the type of person when the show 1st started,I would probably have a little sympathy on her behalf but unfortunately they will be getting scrutinize for their behavior. Granted,No marriage isn't perfect, mine is not..But the simple fact watching the show tonight and hearing everything is "Jons" fault is out of context. She's a reason to their failed marriage too.. more

Resolved Question: does this oatmeal skin therapy work?

putting an oatmeal in a blender, adding lemon juics, and 1 tbsp of honey, and one egg....leave it on for 30 minutes then wash off w/ cold water. does that work is it really good for the skin? I read all about it and its recommended a lot more

Resolved Question: Oh no, What is wrong here?

I have been extremely tired for weeks and can's even get out of bed often times in the mornings. I am doing so terrible in school because I keep missing class because I cannot get out of bed in time to get ready. I also keep getting sick, like terrible colds. I am sick for the 3rd time this term. In between these bad colds I often have terrible mind splitting head aches. I can't seem to get anything done and lack motivation. I feel really bad about myself because I have been doing so poorly in school and think I will not pass at least two possibly three of my four classes this term. I cry often because I am so disappointed in myself and wonder what is wrong with me. I should be graduating this term but I missed a few terms in earlier years because I could not afford to go so I still need around 20 credits and do not know how long it will take me to graduate. I feel like I may never get there and I don't know what I will do when I graduate. I went from having straight As fall term to probably failing most of my classes. I also feel alot of anxiety. Sometimes I feel anxiety about going to class especially when I have been missing I get alot of anxiety about going back and so I keep not going and it just gets worse! I am not sure if it could be depression? I have had depression in the past , but it seems much different, and I know once you have it you will often have more episodes but it has been about 4 years since I was depressed and its was not caused by a chemical imbalance or anything. It was caused by being abused throughout childhood. I went to therapy and put all that behind me I thought. I am happy with my current life situation. I am happily married to a very loving husband who I adore and we just bought our first home. I have a wonderful home life and have gained a wonderful family through him. But I do hate my job. So what could be wrong with me? Please help I do not know what to do? more

Resolved Question: What could be wrong with me? Medical? Psychological?

I have been extremely tired for weeks and can's even get out of bed often times in the mornings. I am doing so terrible in school because I keep missing class because I cannot get out of bed in time to get ready. I also keep getting sick, like terrible colds. I am sick for the 3rd time this term. In between these bad colds I often have terrible mind splitting head aches. I can't seem to get anything done and lack motivation. I feel really bad about myself because I have been doing so poorly in school and think I will not pass at least two possibly three of my four classes this term. I cry often because I am so disappointed in myself and wonder what is wrong with me. I should be graduating this term but I missed a few terms in earlier years because I could not afford to go so I still need around 20 credits and do not know how long it will take me to graduate. I feel like I may never get there and I don't know what I will do when I graduate. I went from having straight As fall term to probably failing most of my classes. I also feel alot of anxiety. Sometimes I feel anxiety about going to class especially when I have been missing I get alot of anxiety about going back and so I keep not going and it just gets worse! I am not sure if it could be depression? I have had depression in the past , but it seems much different, and I know once you have it you will often have more episodes but it has been about 4 years since I was depressed and its was not caused by a chemical imbalance or anything. It was caused by being abused throughout childhood. I went to therapy and put all that behind me I thought. I am happy with my current life situation. I am happily married to a very loving husband who I adore and we just bought our first home. I have a wonderful home life and have gained a wonderful family through him. But I do hate my job. So what could be wrong with me? Please help I do not know what to do?I work at a corporate restaurant as a server. Just to pay my way through school. I hate the way people treat you most of all. I am actually working much less now than I have in the past when I was doing better. I get plenty of sleep, but it never seems to be enough! I just can't seem to be able to handle doing what I have been for the past three years anymore? I can't figure out why? more

Resolved Question: No problems with quitting smoking while using Chantix?

I have never had success in quitting smoking through the various methods such as replacement therapy like patches, gum, and even cold turkey made me so sick I felt better off smoking. Now, with Chantix, I've been smoke free for 3 days.. with very little problems at all. In fact, the third day was supposed to be the hardest but it was easy. Will it get worse on me? Anyone else with similar or different experiences with Chantix willing to share their story? Thanks! more

Resolved Question: How do I deal with a Scorpio's rejection period?

My boyfriend and I have periods where we're really close, miss eachother when we're not together, and seem perfect! Then, there are sudden times where he'll sit in a room with me and not speak, seems cold and distant, and as if he's not wanting to be close to me. He's always told me during heart-to-hearts that Im everything he wants, he wants to be with me, and that he's never cared for someone like he cares for me. He had mild autism as a child (visiting speech therapy etc etc). I find it difficult when he's in this frame of mind. Last night I was asking if everything is ok, trying to make convo, and I told him he seems distant....he responded with ''i'm fine''. I get so frustrated when he's like this. Its been close to pushing me to end the relationship at some points! He says that the only people he trusts and needs, are his parents...(he's 22). They understand him better than anyone. He told me he's got his barriers up, and until he trusts me 100%, he won't let me in, and its 'up to me' whether I stick around.... When I ask if he may want a break, or suggest that I deserve more than to be treated like this and the moods swings, he replies with ''well what do you want to do about it, this is me, end it if your not happy and if its not what you want'' Sooo frustrating! How to deal with a scorpio at times like this? Still call him everyday in my breaks as I would usually do? Back off abit? Draw myself closer to him to let him know I'm still around? more

Resolved Question: Job not excusing absence even though I have a doc. note legal?

I took a day off last week for my 13 month old daughter b/c she was coming down w/ a cold took her to the doctor incase it was more than cold (swine) which it wasnt. But I called in work told them about the situation and informed that I would bring a doc. note in the next day. Well my co. does not want to accept my note b/c there policy is only ONE doc. note per a 60 day period to excuse your absence. I had a prior used my right the month before since I had a accident and had to go to the doc. and get therapy twice (mind you they only excused one at that) I live in CALIFORNIA....is this right to do.....these are legitment notes.....I feel that my co. just makes up rules.....Pls advise thanksok bashers, I dont care about not getting paid I take the loss but the absence should be excused.... that is my point...I was not at home playing hooky I was in the clinic w/ my sick child that is my obligation as a parent to do thank you very much, what if it would had been something worse....anything can happen within 60 days ca require more than one doc. visit...dont you agree... more

Voting Question: Strong Scorpio Man... with Cancer Moon....and Autism?

My boyfriend is 21. We have been together for a while now, and its always been an emotional battle of trust, self-sacrifice (on my part), to prove myself to him, and he's damaged from his childhood experiences. He's strong, and seems able to cope with his past. He has an amazingly strong bond and mutual respect with his parents, which has only strengthened and changed within the last 6 months. He often blows hot/cold, often treats/speaks to me badly, yet often so loving and beautiful.... There are times when he'll open to me, and then times where he'll refuse to let me in. He says that trust is hard to earn, and for him to give himself to me, I need to stick around. Which is fair enough, and I respect him for this. (He's never raised a hand to me, and walks away in an argument). He doesnt seem to want to let me go. He cares for me so much... I can feel this. However, I recently found out he suffered from Autism as a child (and went to speech therapy classes), and well as ADHD, OCD, and Anger disorder. How could this affect a Scorpio man with his relationship? more

Resolved Question: What does it mean if you wake up with a low temperature in the morning for the past few days I woke feeling?

cold with a temperature of 97.4 . I also am having digestive problems, like burping and feeling very emotional. COuld this an indication of thyroid disorders, like hypothyroid? I"d like to know because I want to feel great, and I believe in alternative therapies not one to run to tradional doctors so fast,thanks so much! more

Voting Question: I don't know how to reason with my mom?

I don't know much Vietnamese, but my mom is Vietnamese, so that just makes it harder to talk to her and reason with her. If you didn't know, Vietnamese beat their kids, and it's true for most. They also yell at their kids for the smallest things and demand good grades. And, they don't want their kid to be dating. I'm only 12, and I know that I shouldn't be dating, but I have gone out behind my mom's back with a few guys, gotten my first kiss, and etc. My neighbors know and they're OK with it, they say that teens "do things". I told my brother, huge mistake. He has the same carrier as me, T-Mobile, so I can talk unlimited to him. I came home from the mall once and it was like at 10, where the movie ended, and I had to take him home, so I did, my mom was cool with it, except for the fact I was wearing his jacket. All I could say was "it was cold", in which is was. Later that night, I cussed out my mom since she only wanted me to listen to her, even if it's wrong. She went back on her word, too. She said I could talk unlimited with anyone who had T-Mobile, and when I did, she demands not to talk to whoever anymore. I was talking to my broken-up boyfriend (in which I broke up with for her) and she comes in and she takes the phone and asks who it is and where he lives (which she knows since we dropped him off). Later that night, (which was yesterday) she takes my phone while I was sleeping and looks through all my calls, etc., then, this morning I call her and she said that I'm not ever getting my phone back. Before, this month, I had this other boyfriend whom we talked on housephone. I thought it was OK since I won't be talking like that again, but she doesn't want to believe me and is taking away my phone forever. She said she'll beat the f*** out of me if I ask for it again, but I don't want to leave my boyfriend. Well, my ex. I love him a lot. I really can't stop myself from calling him. And, if I call him from my home phone, my mom said that if she calls and the line is busy, she's going to beat the f*** out of me. I've told her the truth, ever since I was born, and when I tell little lies, she finds out about those and doesn't trust me anymore. I tell her the truth about everything, except for the fact I had a boyfriend, and she doesn't believe me. My mom's boyfriend thinks that I watch PORN on the computer. WTF. I'm 12! And since she likes him a lot more than me, she believes him. My dad believes my mom and thinks that he has the most trouble and that we're just dragging him into this to take some of the blame when he's part of the family. My brother, straight up told me, that he doesn't care. He's the only family member that speaks English, and now, I can't tell anything to anybody. I can't let it out, my stress. To add on, he beats me up too! And he gets pissed that I talk on the phone with my friends a lot. Well, even though not related, they care a lot more than he cares about me! Now that we're broken up, all we do is go to the library after school, see each other for 20-30 minutes, and leave. Not calling, nothing. (he goes to a different school and after school we walk to the library seperately) I know I shouldn't take these middle school relationships seriously, but god, it's my MOM that makes me mad! She thinks that I went to the park with my boyfriend, and she is dead right correct! But there is no proof? I said that I went jogging alone. What the? How did she know? My mom's friends live in front of him, but they only said they saw me walking alone. What the freak? My fault for getting caught going to the park to see my boyfriend, but hey man, my mom's just talking out of her a$$ and she is dead right correct; but she doesn't believe me, and wants to believe the wrong. She won't believe anything unless it's bad. She's dramatizing everything. WTF. Assume, much! And I can't talk to my mom without yelling or cussing at her! The stress just builds up everyday, and because my mom actually said it once, the stress stuff, it looks like she's in more pain than me and refuses to take me to therapy or a psychologist. And I think I can solve this problem on my own without looking like an insane weirdo walking out of a psychologist's office every week, so then I asked my mom to go to this Viet Sunday Buddist School so I can learn Viet and talk to my mom, but all of those people are feeling the same things I am but are there for a more non-complicated reason, so what's my reason again? And I need that class, but I'm too afraid to go. My mom'll let me go, since my Viet is BAD. I talk in 3rd person. Like, if my name was John, I'd be like "John wants to eat." and etc. But still, there is the school psychologist, but she has her problems too. How do I help myself? I don't think I put everything into this post to describe my mom, and she sounds pretty original, but she's probably as insane as you can get.But I'm not going to anymore since now I'm talking to the one with T-Mobile, which is free.P/S: She's saying that she's taking away my phone because it's only been 9/30 days and I've used up 600/1000 minutes talking house phone with my ex.Well, to say, I want to settle the problem NOW. Like, I'm going to have to go in the summer, but I want my cell phone back before that? Like, if I go to the school then I'm going to have to go through all the troubles with my mom and then solve it later, but then she would already have been declared right, I'm wrong, as always, and we have all moved on except me. (like, I'm right, but I can't prove it since I don't speak viet very well and when I do know how to, she's already going to be moved on, my phone service is off, and won't ever get back on.) more

Resolved Question: Could it be a torn locator cuff?

Okay, last week, I was hit hard in my back, shoulder and arm with a bottle, broomstick and a piece of iron from a door. Ever since then, I've been in excruciating pain from my shoulder down to the bone that sticks out of the middle of your back, I can barely lift my left arm, and it hurts like heck when I try to move and it's getting worse. I've tried everything--Lidocaine, heat therapy, cold therapy, prescribed narcotics and even stretching exercises and nothing's worked. Some family and friends have suggested that I might have a torn rotator cuff or a tear/fracture of some kind. Does it sound possible? What kind of tests are done to find out for sure what my problem is? The only thing that seems to help just a bit is holding my left arm still, instead of letting in hang down to my side. more

Resolved Question: How do you get rid of skin tags?

I've heard that cold type of therapy at the dr's office, similar to freezing off warts I think (which didn't ever work for me), works. Now for me only the over the counter Dr. Shoals freeze away wart remover worked for me for warts. I'm wondering if this type of treatment works, if anyone has tried either going to the dr or the OTC freeze treatments. more

Resolved Question: Medical transcription help please?

Word bank - 1. aerosolized 2. neutrophil count 3. antigens 4. prophylaxis 5. costal margin 6. sinusitis 7. immunodeficienty 8. substernal 9. in vitro 10. titer 11. allergens 12. ecchymoses 13. petechiae Fill in the blank with a word above - 1. It is necessary for children with sickle cell disease to take penicillin daily as ________ against life-threatening infection. 2. When examining the abdomen, the physician percusses and palpates around the _____ for the liver and the spleen. 3. New drug therapies are tested _____ in the laboratory before being used in vivo. 4. Mr. Rogers had a severe frontal headache. This is often a sign of an infection called ______. 5. Joanne caught many colds and viruses; therefore, her doctor was performing laboratory tests to rule out an/a _____ disorder. 6. When you have a low ______, you are susceptible to many bacterial infections. 7. The varicella _____ was 1:32, indicating a past exposure to chickenpox. 8. If you have allergies, it is often necessary to determine which _____ cause the allergy. 9. Whenever John took a deep breath, he had _____ pain. 10. When you have asthma, it is often necessary to have the medications _____ through a nebulizer in order for them to reach deep into the lungs. 11. Margaret thought the tiny red dots on her skin were a rash, but Dr. Johnson called them _____________. 12. The box banged across John's shins causing several _______. more

Resolved Question: Is the White German Shepherd the right dog for my family?

I have small dogs and I am looking to get a big dog. First lets get this straight. I don't care if the White German Shepherd is a fault and cant be shown in the show ring. I am getting this dog as a companion not a show dog. So its perfectly fine for me to get a White German Shepherd. Thank you. Well I live in a big house. With a HUGE yard. All my dogs are inside dogs but I have a doggy door so if they want to go out they can. But there mostly inside dogs. My small dogs are my cuddle bugs and are my babies that I love more then anything, I walk them but I don't like to push them so I am looking for a dog as a jogging companion. I don't care about shedding. I want a smart dog that I can train to do tricks and such, my small dogs are therapy dogs so I would also like a dog that can do therapy work. My small dogs don't do agility but I am fond of it and I would like a bog dog that can do agility. (White German Shepherds can compete in AKC agility and they can also be registered with the AKC btw.) Its perfect weather here, never to cold or hot. I work from home so I'll be with the dogs all day. Id like the big dog to be a good guard dog as well. I have 5 kids and another on the way. So the dog must be good with kids and it should be durable LOL What do you think the White German Shepherd fits my lifestyle? (please no another breed suggestions, just want to know if the WGSD is good for my family) Thnx everyone!White German Shepherd- http://www.dogwise.com/Photos/Large/B1111_c.jpgOh never never ever would I ever make any of my dogs outside dogs! That is just cruel! No need to worry about that =) Thanks! more